My Thoughts to Your Thoughts

Annette Young Blog Post

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by Annette Young

We probably all remember Spock from Star-Trek who possessed an extraordinary gift of the mind meld where he could connect telepathically with the mind of another enabling the merging of thoughts. It also enabled him to probe the mind of another while shielding his own thoughts. Although this is fiction at its best, in real life, wouldn’t this be marvelous?

Our thoughts can accelerate our successes in life or quite literally, create a series of stumbling blocks that hold us back, so with this in mind,  the possibilities of helping others by transferring our own positive thoughts into the minds of those who feel negative, anxious or even depressed could be highly beneficial. This sharing of positivity would filter into every aspect of that individual’s life – from decision making, to harmonious relationships and would even impact career success.

While the mind merge is out of my own remit, here’s an example of how we can help others in real life. I was chatting to a friend the other day and he was going through a particularly difficult time and had found himself in a complete rut. He felt trapped, caught within the confines of his own making because he’d shut so many people out of his life, concentrating on picking up the pieces following a shattered marriage and, had focused solely on his children, putting his heart and soul into their needs. A selfless act? Maybe but his children, who had been veering towards their teenage years at the time, then grew up and happily went off to college, keen to move on with their own lives with little thought for their father who was then left feeling bereft and, quite depressed.

It’s all too easy to carve out a niche for ourselves in life which is confining and limiting. Although the intent may be honourable, it keeps you within your comfort zone and restricted. In my friend’s situation, he’d given his all for years, and had been content to do so. It was a sacrifice he’d been willing to make and he’d single-handedly brought his children up through a very difficult time-frame as well as experiencing all the joys and turbulence of teenage life. To be honest, I’d always been a little concerned by his need to dedicate his every waking hour to his family, in my own mind, I felt that his sacrifice – shutting out other friends or potential romantic relationships was through his fear of being hurt and limiting his own journey through life after divorce.

Having lived through a broken marriage and having a daughter who was making her own way in the world, I was able to talk positively about the whole experience and to discuss the challenges that lay ahead of him. I encouraged him to seek out these opportunities and to greet every day with positivity and to know that whatever difficulties may have to be faced, to do so with focus, intent and a positive mind-set. With the right attitude, life is less complicated than it might be and the foundations of change are directly connected to our thought processes. It was time to make a life for himself and to let others through the barriers. Irrespective of his previous experiences, he could welcome in kind people with a generous spirit. By enriching his life, he could go from solitude to social confidence and could show his children that life can be good whether single or not. As long as you are happy with who you are in life, being alone is no longer a terrifying prospect.

What a lesson of life to impart.

By the time we’d finished chatting, he admitted he felt relieved and lighter, as if a burden of fear had been lifted, recognising that he had indeed hidden from life.We may not be able to mind merge like Spock but we can all encourage and share our positivity with those who need it. It is never wasted and even if only a fraction of the support and guidance given is absorbed, it’s a comfort to know that you have been able to assist in the progress of others and will have planted the seeds of growth for the future.

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Gag, Bind and Silence the Inner Critic

Awareness

Silence the inner critic

by Annette Young

The simplest actions in life are shaped by your thoughts. Your decisions or inability to decide on any of the multitude of options presented to you are determined by clarity of thought, the ability to analyse and weigh-up said options and, to come to a satisfactory conclusion. It is your thoughts – whether positive or negative that enable you to progress or to come grinding to a halt.

 

What opportunities have passed you by?

 

We all have equal chances in life. You may not think it but there’s a level playing field out there in terms of your ability to achieve success. While some opportunities may not come gift-wrapped or presented on a silver platter, if you are forward-thinking, positive and determined, the energy that you promote conjures up a route not formerly open and new possibilities start to emerge. Whether you take these options and use them, is up to you, it’s a conscious choice. But what happens if your negative thought processes are whirring away in the background and holding you captive on a sub-conscious level?

 

There’s a voice inside your mind telling you no.

 

Many people find themselves having an inner dialogue. This is not an indulgence or a sign of madness but the inner critic that often comes out to play when indecision hovers. Your inner critic taints your thought processes and renders them inadequate. The inner critic paralyses you leading you to inactivity so that your true potential passes you by. Think of any occasion when your inner voice may have gleefully informed you that you are lacking – you are not good enough, pretty enough or clever enough. Here’s an example: you meet the person of your dreams or apply for a dream job and then, without warning, the inner critic demoralises your self-esteem and confidence stripping it back to its crumbling foundations. When you understand that it’s the work of the inner critic, awareness can give you an added advantage.

 

There’s a battle going on right now

 

The good news is that the inner critic can be quietened and tamed to order. Awareness and resolve come into play here. You can mentally gag that nagging voice and push all thoughts of doubt away. Don’t let the strength of this inner voice fool you though, one victory is not enough, it’s strong, but you need to be stronger. Make no mistake, turn your attention for one second and it will be back like a gremlin on the shoulder of life. The more you practice positivity and tell yourself you can achieve anything, the greater the potential for doing so.

 

What’s your inner critic telling you today?

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Stuck Fast in the Quagmire of Life?

Transform

Change your life

by Annette Young

We all want to live successful and happy lives but for many people, it can seem impossible. Financial problems, relationship problems or unrealistic workloads can make life tough. In fact, far from being vibrant, life becomes grey and dreary and filled with a never-ending stream of problems. If you are less than contented with any aspect of day to day life and are stuck fast in the proverbial quagmire which serves to hold you back, it’s time to make changes.

But where do you start?

How do you take the giant leap from discontented or unhappy to feeling empowered? When life goes from simplistic to out of control in the blink of an eye and when life and its various problems catch you unawares, it’s easy to spiral downwards into panic, anxiety and stress. Once you are in this vulnerable and frightening position, the clamber back upwards is a difficult one.

Make your mind-set work for you

Did you know that it can take approximately 30 days to form new positive habits of change? This means that whatever you do to instigate feelings of well-being and positivity, you need to do it regularly and believe in it so that you start the transformational ball of change rolling. But these changes are far easier to utilise than you might think because they do not have to be earth-shattering changes, sometimes small changes are key. Why? Because they are easier to incorporate into everyday life and, they also give you that feel-good factor leading to improved self-esteem and confidence, clarity of mind and determination because you know you are doing something productive…. just for you.

Do you want to feel stressed or unfulfilled next week, next month or even next year?

If life is a little stressful or just uninspired and you are fed up of walking the treadmill of life, make up your mind to do something now. Yes, right now. You may feel lethargic or your self-belief may be at the bottom of a long list of priorities right now, but, small changes equal powerful steps towards a life that is enhanced. One small, positive step in life can deliver unbelievable transformation.

The solution to a new life starts with you saying yes to change.

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Being Aware of Awareness

Awareness

 

I have written many articles about the balance of positive and negative energy and how they are equally important in our lives. Having a positive outlook is very powerful but of course it must never be at the expense of an individual avoiding negative elements. Although this at first seems a strange thing to say, it does make sense when you consider that the Universe we live in is complete energy and therefore, must be balanced.

So what we really need is awareness.

Awareness empowers us because it gives us the ability to recognise negative situations without concentrating or dwelling upon them. In some ways, this fits into the law of attraction in that we should not allow our thoughts to manifest a reality but where it differs is that we should not ignore the negative outcome completely.

Awareness actually helps us block negativity and naturally turn possible outcomes into a positive. Another way of looking at this is that each and every thought is energy and so, by trying not think of an outcome you actually are. This is why awareness is so important as you are not trying block energy via your thoughts but allowing the balance to adjust. By being aware, we are allowing a natural balance and flow that still allows all possible outcomes but also, enables positive thoughts and positive feelings.

We can see this in action when we look at deeply rooted fears. An individual may be trying very hard to avoid acknowledging these fears, desperately trying to think in a positive way, unaware that they are actually manifesting this fear by deliberately attempting to block out negative thoughts. This only gives the fear power. Inevitably, this negative outcome is likely to manifest itself.

Although this short article only touches on awareness, it is something to consider. Awareness helps you to understand that avoidance is not the answer, rather, it is important to be aware that both positive and negative outcomes exist alongside each other in a perfect balance. By embracing this knowledge and then retaining positive thoughts, we can help shift energy to work in our favour.

Andy Beveridge

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Understanding your belief systems

Belief Systems

We are all born with a clean slate and our belief systems are passed down to us in a variety of ways i.e. from parents, teachers, friends and even the media plays a role in the development of all that we believe. In all honesty, we rarely question them and carry on throughout life following these beliefs as if they must be true. It pays to sit down and contemplate as to why we actually believe or think we know about something. This does not just mean spiritual or religious views although they very much do fit into this but also, to consider our whole attitude about life and even our thoughts on what is healthy or good for us. Our perceived values are also handed to us from external sources and will govern our way of thinking right from the start.

When I first sat down and began to question my own beliefs, it was a real wake-up call.

You see even when we think we are making decisions or choices based upon our own knowledge, this is quite often not the case. You may walk down a supermarket aisle and without due consideration, pluck items from the shelf never questioning which products are better or even why a certain product is chosen. The chances are that taste is only one aspect of why you choose certain types of food. Marketing hype and discussions with others may influence your beliefs.

Messages from bill boards and magazines seep through into our sub-conscious mind and facilitate change in the way we think. There is no escape from this barrage of often false information and those people within marketing, know that it works. We trust authority figures far too easily without ever researching the real truths and making an informed decision based on that research.

We do this with even more serious subjects too like religion and tend to believe all that has been passed down to us forgetting that someone else in another part of the world believes in a completely different set of values for exactly the same reason. We should always question our core beliefs and see if we truly understand them.

Finding the Real You
The real you can often be hidden under other peoples’ beliefs systems which they in turn developed from people passing their own beliefs onto them too. Look how easily a story can become twisted as it is passed on from person to person.

Once you start asking why something is important to you and what experiences you have based your belief system on, then often the truth becomes clear, and this is where your core values and beliefs can sometimes change. This is where the heart of the ‘real you’ resides, that place where what you do and live by is completely your choice based on your experiences, your instinct and your knowledge. These beliefs are yours alone.

Andy Beveridge

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The Dark Cloud of Mind Clutter

Struggling to think

Struggling to think

by Annette Young

Mind shrouded in a dark, grey fog?

It’s not easy to make the most of your life when your thoughts are muddled, seemingly with no beginning and no end to the mental mind clutter. When your thoughts are negative, overwhelming and dark in nature, it may feel as if your life is in a complete stranglehold.

Do you feel as if there is nowhere to turn?

At times like this, problems seem insurmountable. Worse, problems arrive in waves, with no time to clear your mind and the new arrivals only add to the ever-increasing pile of issues in which you have no chance of resolving. You feel as if you take two steps forward and five back. There’s no definite answer and your life has spiralled terrifyingly out of control.

What do you do when there is no escape?

It may seem as if there is no easy pathway forward but don’t give up hope. Everyone feels like this sometimes and the way forward is just one small step at a time and one small problem at a time. Don’t try to take on the world or solve all problems in one go, it’s impossible when your thoughts are dark, you feel confused and afraid. There are always solutions, it just takes a leap of faith and a desire to make changes one small step at a time.

 

 

 

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Let Go of Past Regrets

Regrets

Regrets

by Annette Young

You think that your past regrets are just that…a thing of the past. A distant memory slotted neatly into the dark recesses of your mind and long forgotten.

Sadly, regrets have a way of intertwining and becoming intricately wrapped in the here and now.  Stored within your sub-conscious mind, they shape your thoughts and actions and they can make you hold back in life. Regrets are part of the human condition, it’s impossible to go through life without making any irrespective of any tender steps around issues. You may have made a decision that turned out horribly wrong. Your mistake might have been costly. You hurt someone badly or your decision impacted your career prospects on a colossal scale. Your decision may have been made out of fear.

Live with your past regrets and learn from them.

Your past regrets can easily interfere with your belief system and make you second guess how to progress your life in a positive way. Understanding how important past regrets are enables you to deal with them in a positive and healing way. Spending time analysing any past regrets is a positive move. Track down those regrets that haunt you and chip away at your sub-conscious mind, always just slightly out of reach of your conscious control.

Forgive yourself and let go.

Whatever your reasoning at the time, it’s important to accept it and embrace it. Consider it an integral part of your growth as an individual. Turn any regrets into a positive force going forwards, if it is going to shape your life, let it shape your life in a positive way. Then, once you have made peace with your past regrets, embrace the sensation of peace that envelops you and take empowered steps into the future of your own making free from the shackles of your past.

 

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Find, Identify and Kill Those Self-Limiting Belief

Self-limiting Beliefs

Transform your thoughts

By Annette Young

Do you feel that life is unfair and that you never get your chance to shine? Maybe, something within is holding you back.

Do you spend your time wondering when ‘your time’ will come? Does hope keep you going every day while you cling onto the possibility that one day your luck will change and you’ll be really happy? We can all kid ourselves that fate will one day give us our big break and it will arrive gift-wrapped but let’s cut to the chase. The only way you will achieve your true potential in life is to stop ‘hoping’ and instead, face up to any self-limiting beliefs that may be preventing you from achieving. Beliefs are really powerful and if yours have a stranglehold on your life, it makes sense to really think about what you want and what’s stopping you from achieving.

Is it time to face up to any inner fears?

There’s little point emulating others who may be successful, when you need to define your own dreams and deliver. It is fine to consider their work remit or to understand what makes them successful. But it’s important to find your own way in life and to embrace each and every moment, making them count.

How many times have you stood on the threshold of success or faced a wonderful new opportunity and thought, ‘I can’t do this?’ Feelings of inadequacy if left unchecked can overpower your life and soon, you’ll find you do much less in life but worry a whole lot more. To be able to really make significant changes, to embrace the successes in life that you deserve, you need to discover what niggling little doubts are holding you back.

• Has anyone ever told you will never account to anything?
• Do you tell yourself you are not clever or capable enough to achieve anything?

Self-limiting beliefs are destructive. They are powerful and they need to be changed otherwise, your life will remain just as it is right now. That’s fine if you don’t need anything more in life or are really happy as you are right now. But if not, you just have to decide that change is the only option.

Often, any negative beliefs begin when we are young, so it’s important to think back to times when you were made to feel inadequate. Find any deeply rooted reason for your inability to fire up your life and success and you can then work on changing these beliefs. We all face rejections, we all face losses. Some people clamber with resolve over obstacles, others give up at the first hurdle.

Which one are you?

Awareness forms a powerful starting point for change. Think, right now, right this second. You can say yes to change. It’s not your fault if you have doubts caused through the actions of others, but it is your fault if you let your rut engulf you. Make a difference. Start today.

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